“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.” ~Shirley MacLaine
We all come across mean people at some point of life. School, work, society – you can find them anywhere and it’s really difficult to handle them. Face issues identifying them? It’s easy though! Someone who is never happy when you achieve something and you can find them to be happy when you experience something bad. Names popping up, eh? I have experienced something which I would love sharing with you all, would love to get your responses on this. So, the people who are mean to you carry a lot of ego with them, without a doubt and if they find you to be stronger than them, they’ll try their level best to bring you down. Because at the end of the day, all they want is to see you suffer! So, why not surprise them? But trust me, if you want to save your energy and remain positive, the best thing to do is not reflecting how smart you are! That’s how they feel secure. Let them be!
- DON’T GIVE THEM WHAT THEY ARE ASKING FOR
That’s the best thing which you can do to them for being mean. Don’t give in to the hatred, just do not! They will try their best to drag you down to their level, but if you react in a way that they want, it’s their failure. It’s not that difficult, just SMILE away the negative vibes! Try it.
There are people who will say things for you to listen and react. Overhear all the negative things they say. Stand up, go, have a glass of water, try finding the book which you were looking for a long time. If they try and cross their limits, walk out! That’s the best thing to do!
- PROTECT YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
Although I suggest keeping calm when someone tries to provoke you, that doesn’t mean to let them walk over your self-esteem. Now, how do we protect our self-esteem without reacting? There is a way to get things communicated to the other side. Maintain your composure while letting them know “Boss, this is it, I am not gonna take more shit from you now.” Do that smartly though.
- DON’T LET THEM KNOW OF YOUR PERSONAL DETAILS
Mean people are called so for a reason. They are like chameleons! Don’t trust them when they say they have changed. People don’t change overnight. Remember, they made your life a living hell for no reason. I have friends who fall in the emotional trap and disclose all the personal details. Now that’s dangerous. Never do that!
- QUESTION WHAT YOU ARE GETTING OUT OF IT
Ask yourself this really important question – What would you get out of all the trouble? If someone wants to piss you off, it’s their problem, don’t make it yours. Ok? When you know this, there are less chances of you reacting to them how they want you to.
- NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU FEEL BAD
Understand this – No one other than you yourself, can make you feel bad. Someone else who’s mean to you probably wants to ruin your mood, but they can’t do anything till the time you don’t give in! It’s not that difficult, ask me!
- WORDS ARE NOT THINGS
Always remember the fact that things can harm you physically and not words. And words definitely are not things. So, be assured that someone who is saying bad things to you cannot kill you with words, unless they are armed, duh!
Ever heard about it? Believe me, this is the fairest thing in the whole big universe. Karma means you get what you do, eventually! So, mean people aren’t the happiest ones for sure. Karma brings them down to what they have done in life. Why do you want to waste your time and money in getting back to them? Let the process do it!
It takes very little to govern good people. Very little. And bad people can’t be governed at all. Or if they could I never heard of it. – Cormac McCarthy